Monday, June 17, 2013

The Helpful Husband

Someone asked me recently if Tim was a helpful husband. Without hesitation, I said yes.

A few hours later, I thought more about the question and decided that my answer was no.

To say that Tim is a helpful husband implies that I steer the parenting ship and when I ask for help he is willing. It implies that I carry the load and he pitches it. That doesn't even come close to describing Tim.

Tim is my parenting partner. He is Eddy's dad. There is no pitching in because it just happens. Yes, sometimes I ask for help but not because he is cluelessly watching but because his help makes things easier.

I didn't marry Tim because I knew he'd be a good father; I married him because we work. And because we work, we also work as parents.

I've talked about how much Tim's brain has adapted to parenting and how he has learned at lightening speed. In nearly no time, he became such a natural that you would think I had planned it.

But I can't take credit for that one. My secret to parenting is not that I have a helpful husband in my back pocket. It's that I found a partner 8 years ago that would always be willing to work with me. I have shown him a few tricks, he has shown me patience. And it works.

Besides, who else can I count on to cool our kid down with a cold beer on a hot day?

Happy Father's Day, Papa. I can't imagine this gig without you.


  1. <3 <3 <3 it's great to have a fantastic partner to be a fantastic dad to your little one isn't it?? :)

  2. This is one of my favorites from you - and I can relate! Nothing better than finding your parenting partner and not just a helping hand. You guys are the best! Hoping you had a wonderful day together! :)


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